RBV: Ephesians 4:18

I wrote this essay, “No Meeting of the Minds,” for CGG Weekly on September 13, 2013.

“. . . having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart . . .”
—Ephesians 4:18

If Facebook can be compared to a barbeque with friends, Twitter is a food fight in a college cafeteria. I signed on to Twitter mostly to stay on top of news and commentary on the events of the day, as a kind of raw feed of what is occurring in the world. I make only a few comments directly to Twitter, and one, in particular, I regretted almost immediately. It stirred up a hornet’s nest among a group of feminists and atheists that troll Twitterdom to attack believers like me.

My sin—in their eyes—was to link to an article on Christian marriage and make this comment: “If husbands loved as they are supposed to, wives would have no problem submitting to them.” To us, this is a true, benign statement in accord with Ephesians 5:22, 25. But to feminists and the atheists who support them, I may as well have slapped their faces with a gauntlet and challenged them to duels! The first reply, from a person with “secular” in her Twitter handle, reads, “why [sic] would I ever want to submit to someone who should consider me an equal, and why would he want me to?? [sic]” The second, from a young man who describes himself as “20-year old Uni. student, atheist, secular humanist,” simply writes, “That doesn’t make any sense.” From there, the tweets became far worse and a lot more profane.

After just a few back-and-forth exchanges, it became frustratingly obvious that there was no meeting of the minds. None. We could not even agree on simple definitions of words like “submit,” “equality,” “love,” and “instruction”! For instance, my interlocutors simply refused to consider that submission in a relationship of equals is even possible. To them, submission always indicates a superior-inferior relationship, thus a wife submitting to her husband is admitting a lower status—and feminists will never take a back seat to a man. Once this kind of thinking became plain to me, any idea of explaining humility or voluntary submission went right out the window!

From what I could tell from the scant information available about a person on Twitter, almost all of them were young adults, militantly and proudly atheist, and thoroughly steeped in secular humanism, the guiding philosophy of progressives the world over. They had been educated solely in the ideas and aspirations of men in “this present evil age” (Galatians 1:4). My only point of contact with them was being of the same species.

Our minds, our thinking, could not have been more different. As atheists, they would not accept any argument based on Scripture, leaving me virtually weaponless as my every argument on this subject came out of God’s Word. For my part, I could not comprehend a relationship in which both partners refused to allow the other to lead. Such a relationship of stubborn insistence of superiority (which they called “equality”) is bound to fail. As Herbert Armstrong often said, in any relationship of two people, one of them must be the leader—even in the relationship of God the Father and His Son. Jesus says, “My Father is greater than I” (John 14:28). He voluntarily submits.

To my Twitter opponents, though, voluntary submission was unacceptable and self-contradictory. How can there be any hope of even mild understanding, much less agreement, when the two sides of a conversation have no common foundation, language, or objectives? Seeing how ultimately futile it was, trying to explain physics to a fungus may have been easier.

This experience highlights a few spiritual realities. The first spiritual reality is that, because mankind has continually rejected God and every proof, not only of His existence but also of His power and involvement in the affairs of humanity, God has allowed most people in this world to continue along the path of their godless thinking and reap the consequences. As Paul phrases it in his revealing explanation of this truth, “And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting” (Romans 1:28). He tells the Ephesians that “the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart” (Ephesians 4:17-18).

The second spiritual reality is the flipside of the first: Those whom God calls are a new creation (Romans 6:4; Ephesians 4:20-24; Colossians 3:9-10), and with the gift of the Holy Spirit, their minds have been enlightened with the understanding of divine things. Jesus tells His disciples:

And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever—the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you. . . . I will come to you. . . . However, when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come. (John 14:16-18; 16:13-14)

Paul summarizes this in I Corinthians 2:10, 16: “But God has revealed [His truth and plan] to us through His Spirit. For the Spirit searches all things, yes, the deep things of God. . . . [W]e have the mind of Christ.”

These two realities are why there is no meeting of the minds. People in the world are functioning and reasoning on one wavelength and Christians on another, and the two are diametrically opposed (see Galatians 5:17; Romans 8:5-9). Paul warns that this widening difference will make “the last days perilous times” (II Timothy 3:1), and “evil men and imposters will grow worse and worse, deceiving and being deceived” (verse 13). Giving a reasoned defense of the hope within us (I Peter 3:15) will only become more difficult in the days ahead.